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Things to Consider:
Plan escape routes and a safe place to go.
Keep purse, car keys, and a phone close at hand (a free 9-1-1 cellular phone is available by calling DVVAP at 1.888.991.4639).
Tell children or neighbors to call the police if they hear an argument; use a code word to alert them that you're in trouble.
Avoid arguments in rooms with potential weapons, such as the kitchen or garage, or in rooms without access to an outside door.
Know your legal rights. Consider obtaining a restraining order.
If you're planning to leave, open a bank account. Have statements sent to a trusted friend or relative.
Gather important documents and belongings for you and the children. Keep these items in a safe place so that if you need to flee suddenly, you can get to them.
Checklist of Items to Bring with You:
identification
birth certificates
social security cards
medical records
children's school records
address book
money, bankbooks (but no checks, ATM cards or credit cards - these are too easily traced
keys
driver's license and registration, passport, green card, work permits, welfare identification
marriage license, divorce papers
lease/rental agreement or deed
mortgage and car payment books
insurance policies
medications
clothes, pictures, jewelry, items of sentimental value
children's favorite toys/blankets
documentation of past abuse - photos, police reports, medical records
legal documents - restraining orders, papers that show jointly owned assets
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